I wanted to share another lesson with you from my recent trip to Vail, Colorado and what I have learned by looking inward and developing a clearer focus on my personal life vision. A few weeks ago I wrote a post on “manifesting your perfect life” and mentioned my intention to share other thoughts from what was a very reflective time for me. Today, we are going to talk about busting stories.
Bethenny Frankel has manifested the life of her greatest vision and truly has it all; a husband that loves her, a beautiful healthy child, good friends, a thriving career, mega-million dollar wealth, the respect of her peers and the admiration of her fans. All of this is true but Bethenny’s journey has not been easy and along the way she had to break a number of deep rooted stories formed over a lifetime of emotional abuse, parental cruelty and neglect.
I have followed Bethenny’s story as millions of others have by watching it all play out from her runner up status on Martha Stewart’s Apprentice, to the Real Housewives of New York, to Bethenny Gets Married, and continuing with Bethenny Ever-after. Sure, watching her story play-out has made for good television, yet the lessons are much bigger and provide the true value to be gleaned from the example she represents. Bethenny’s story serves as the perfect guide to what becomes possible when we decide to bust our stories.
The picture above is a thumbnail from the June 6, 2011 cover of Forbes Magazine which hit the news stands during my Vail visit and made for enlightened reading, just a layer below the obvious. After reading about the sale of her Skinnygirl Cocktails line to Jim Beam for a reported $120 million, I thought what a perfect reward and affirmation of Bethenny’s willingness to bust her stories and take control of her life vision.
Regardless of what you want to accomplish in your life; money, fame, respect, a happy family, a loving relationship, health, a fulfilling spiritual life, purpose, etc. You can accomplish it with the freedom of a clean slate and the best part is that you control it for yourself. No one gets to define you once you take back your power by embracing your past and then breaking the stories that no longer serve you or perhaps never did.
The 6 Steps to Busting Your Stories
- Acknowledge your past and recognize that everything that has occurred in your life both good and not so good has resulted in your arrival in this moment. Whenever I begin beating myself up about choices I have made, I remind myself that another choice may have landed me in the wrong place at the wrong time or limited the opportunities I have today. Embracing your past provides you with the ability to gain power from the experiences you are proud of, happy about, and all that has molded you.
- Know Who You Are and refuse to let others define you. It is a flaw in human nature that we tend to judge people by their past and come to expect nothing more than what we have previously experienced. This can work against you by allowing others to control how you feel about yourself and what you will be able to accomplish in life. Make a clear decision to treat your past as prologue to your perfect future and be unapologetic when others become uncomfortable with your unwillingness to relive the old stories.
- Set a Perfect New Vision of what you want your life to be in reality. Once you become clear on what you want, you will know the right questions to ask in order to bring it into physical reality. Witness as the people, resources and situations emerge in your life to make your vision real. Everything you need to achieve your clearly formed vision will appear and the old stories and stumbling blocks of the past will simply not matter or fail to show up at all.
- Comfortably Hold Onto Your Vision as it begins to manifest in your life. The creation process will deliver results in your life more quickly based on your ability to comfortably hold your new vision and belief in the outcome you want. Despite of the challenges you face along your journey or sudden doubts that may appear, focus on your vision and maintain both an intellectual awareness and an emotional awareness of what you desire to achieve.
- Act on Your Vision by showing up and engage in the creation process of life when you recognize an opportunity to take another step toward your perfect vision. Bust the stories that do not apply, overcome doubt, break through self-limiting beliefs and recognize that you do not need to have all of the answers at once. The path to your perfect life will unfold before you when you focus on the bigger vision.
- Live in Gratitude for all you have experienced in your life, be thankful for what you have today and for the manifestations along your journey toward the life you have envisioned.
“Take the first step in faith. You do not have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Bethenny Frankel is just one of many people who have broken through and achieve fulfillment in many aspects of life. Regardless of how humble or grand your aspirations, you alone hold the keys. Tap into your God given power and set a vision worthy of your gifts and true desires.
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