Things Get a Little Messy When the Stones Come Back at You
The pot has been boiling for months, you know the story, school yard bully throwing stones and tossing insults to other kids on the playground that is the worldwide web. Let me be clear, all of the players in this little dust-up are people I consider friends so with that said… what boiled to the surface has been in the soup for a while and many on the sidelines know it even if they would never say it.
If you run a Google search of recent comments I’ve posted on many traffic exchange related blogs you will discover that I am an advocate of letting people run their own businesses and furthermore recognizing that there are many ways to do so successfully. Social surfing vs old school non-social surfing, social sites vs non-social sites, owner provided customer support vs staff provided customer support, script A vs script B… nanner, nanner, nanner… how about try to make a few pennies a day vs why not a few hundred, building a chat presence vs building a list, and it goes on and on and on and on! The truth is that there are many examples of successful sites and online business owners representative of each of these models and many more.
The truth is there has been a fair amount of “bullying” going on in conference rooms and on blogs over the past few months and the people being kicked around have many successes to their credit, they are proven leaders have thousands of customers and loyal followers. This post is not written to plead their case, feel sorry for them, or start picking sides… it’s not my style. I am merely an observer like most of you with an opinion that I am not afraid to express.
Sooner or later every bully get’s exposed on the play ground it’s an unwritten law of the universe. When it happens you recognize it immediately, like that famous scene from the movie “A Christmas Story” when Ralphie finally decides he has had enough. There is allot of sensitivity to school yard bullying these days so I hope you can appreciate my humor in sharing this video clip before I share my points.
Go ahead and press play… you know you can’t resist
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I hope you are laughing or I will never again attempt humor!
Now that you have had a little laugh you can appreciate what I have to say in all seriousness because it is a serious subject.
People who live in glass houses should never throw stones… that is not new and deep down inside we know this is great advice. The lesson becomes all too real and may even hurt when we realize that everyone of us lives in a glass house… yep all of us.
The next time you or I declare that we have the authority to decide what is the right way or the wrong way to run a business or assume the authority to elevate saints and cast out demons, we must recognize that we are serving no one and ultimately dis-serving ourselves. Remember the bully always get’s exposed in the end!
I recently spent a great evening at my high school reunion (never mind which year) and the bullies were no where to be found… seriously, they were no where! Bullies spend four years ruling their universe and making others lives miserable and then simply fade away. It is the nerds, the geeks, the respectful ones, the goody two shoes that grow up to be Bill Gates or Meg Whitman, Ghandi or Mother Teresa, the mentor or the teacher. They live rich lives… get all of the pretty girls and handsome guys… and rule their universe for a lifetime. Something to think about!
So I encourage you when given the choice to respect the freewill of others, to honor diversity that is the essence of community, to celebrate individuality, or to criticize others, make broad and damning statements, or cast other stones… chose the high road, the one that provides value for others and is grounded in truth.
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